A dream killer is someone who destroys your dreams of being successful. I will give you seven points you ought to know about dream killers so that you are able to accomplish what you want to do. I will touch on the life of Joseph and his brothers.
Dream Killers Will Always be Around
You will always run into dream killers. Some may be at your job, others in the church while others may even be in your family. Joseph had eleven brothers and ten of them hated him because he was their father’s favorite. In fact, their father had made a special coat of many colors for him. He also told on them to their father when they did not do what they were supposed to do. Worst of all, he was having big dreams.He had a dream and not just any other dream but a dream that one day he would rule over them.
So he said to them, “Please hear this dream which I have dreamed: There we were, binding sheaves in the field. Then behold, my sheaf arose and also stood upright; and indeed your sheaves stood all around and bowed down to my sheaf.” And his brothers said to him, “Shall you indeed reign over us? Or shall you indeed have dominion over us?” So they hated him even more for his dreams and for his words. Genesis 37:6-8 (NKJV)
When he told them the dream, they understood it and they hated him even more. Have you ever come across people who will never celebrate you? When you give them good news, you wonder who died.
Dream Killers Can Either See Your Dream as Ridiculous therefore Discourage You or they Can Be Driven by Jealousy.
Those that don’t see
There are people who cannot see what you see. Tiger Woods became the youngest man and the first African American to win the U.S. Masters in 1997. But his story does not start there. His father was instrumental in his success. Just at four years old, he started buying Tiger Woods golf clubs and shoes and took him to the golf course. Why? Because he saw something that other parents could not see. It may have looked ridiculous to someone else but not to his father. So you will come across someone who does not see what you see. Just beware that they don’t see so don’t let them discourage you by telling you how you cannot make it.
Those driven by jealousy.
When Joseph told his brothers the second dream, they were envious and jealous of him. There are a number of things I do want to bring to your attention concerning jealousy.
- Jealousy will never celebrate success.
- Jealousy will discourage instead of encourage.
- Jealousy can kill. Cain killed his brother Abel because God was pleased with Abel’s sacrifice but not his.
- Jealousy blinds. Joseph’s brothers were plotting to kill him regardless of the fact that he was their brother.
- Jealousy creates enemies in one’s mind. It cheats you that once you get rid of your “enemy” you will be well and have peace. But that is not the case. Joseph’s brother lived with a guilty conscience until the day they understood he had forgiven them.
- Jealousy can cause one to act irrationally without thinking of the consequences. The brothers did not think what was going to happen to Joseph nor their own father. Scripture states in Genesis 37:34-35 in the Amplified Version, “So Jacob tore his clothes [in grief], put on sackcloth and mourned many days for his son. Then all his sons and daughters attempted to console him, but he refused to be comforted and said, “I will go down to Sheol (the place of the dead) in mourning for my son.” And his father wept for him.” The brothers could not underdo what they had done.
How do we avoid being jealous?
Realize that God created us uniquely with a gift or a set of gifts that can solve a problem or problems. You were created with something special inside you. We should never look at others dreams as if they are greater than ours. God gives dreams and then gives the grace and strength to see the dream come true. Imagine a man is directed to open a mall and another is directed to have a store at that mall. We may think that the mall owner has been directed to do something greater than the store owner. This may not true because with hard work, persistence and faithfulness, the store owner will see the faithfulness of God. You may find that he is well known in that mall and yet people don’t know who the owner of the mall is.
Luke 16:10 states, “Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much.
Colossians 3:23 says, “Whatever you do [whatever your task may be], work from the soul [that is, put in your very best effort], as [something done] for the Lord and not for men,
Do not despise the dream God has given you. You may see as if someone else’s dream is coming to pass and it feels like you are struggling. Scripture states that we should not despise humble beginnings. (Zechariah 4:10)
Dream killers Can Concoct a Plan of Destruction Against You
Dream killers can try to sabotage you. So if you hear a person you thought was close to you saying unimaginable things against you or doing things you could never imagine this person can do, do not allow that person’s words or actions put you down. Focus on the task given to you.
Dream Killers Can Propel You Towards Your Destiny
They may think they are destroying you but they are actually setting things in motion. Joseph’s brothers did not know that by selling him, they started Joseph’s journey towards greatness. God works all things together for our good (Romans 8:28).
Dream Killers May Not Recognize You
Once you become successful, God transforms you therefore, some dream killers may not recognize you. Why? They already ruled you out. Joseph’s brothers did not recognize him.
You have to Forgive Dream Killers
When Joseph became the second in command in Egypt, he forgave his brothers. In fact he cried when he saw them. He forgave them because he understood why he had to go through what he went through which brings me to my last point.
You Will Find Yourself Helping Dream Killers
You will find yourself helping the same people who tried to kill your dream. In Genesis 50:20, Joseph told his brothers, “You intended to harm me, but God intended it all for good. He brought me to this position so I could save the lives of many people.” Joseph had to go through what he went through for the sake of a nation. God will raise you for the sake of others. Maybe it is for the sake of your family or for the sake of your community. Maybe it is for the sake of a nation. When you understand that your dream is not your own but God put it in you for a purpose, then you focus on it coming to pass and not on the dream killers.
Author of Hopeful Living, Trusting God to Guide you through Life
Speaker and Radio Show Host of Woman Transformed
President of Woman Transformed